The next rule in The Rules for being Human.
Rule No.7 Others are merely mirrors of you. We cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects something we love or hate about ourselves.
Ouch! This one hurts a little bit doesn’t it? Because it asks us to turn the focus back onto ourselves in self examination of our hearts rather than pointing a finger at others in blame and fault finding. There is that old saying about pointing the finger, when you do, one finger points towards the other person and three fingers point back at ourselves. Try in now and you will see this is the case.
It is easy to find fault but the key to being the best human you can be and also to seeing the best in others is humble self examination. One of the foundational teachings of Christian faith is to “examine yourself” and this too is a life long process; one will never come to the place where they are so good that they will not need continual self examination and correction. If you are anything like me, you will find keeping your own attitude under control is a full time job and leaves little time to pick fault in others but hopefully enough compassion to be kind to others.